All by oneself???

I was talking to a friend recently and something we were discussing about struck a chord in me. It was like this, Peter (not real name of course) was about to finish his Studies very soon and was about to step into the corporate world just like everyone else. Heres the thing, Peter was not sure what exactly was the job that was suited for him. However, he did know that he wanted to do something similar as his sister. Upon hearing him i said,

'Why not approach your sister for help? I am sure she will help you'


'No, I don't need or want her to help me. I want to handle it by myself.' He replied.

His reply made me think, Why does everyone always want to handle things all by themselves and in their own way as well? Is it because thy do not wish to superimpose and trouble those around them? Or could it be just because of Pride and Ego?

I Actually remember myself behaving the exact same way in my younger days. And even though i wish i am able to tell everyone and myself that i rejected the help around me for nobel reasons but i could actually remember me thinking to myself on how i wanted to do everything by myself and in my own way because i wanted to prove to everyone that i am 'above average' and i am 'different'. Well... that was a long time ago i have outgrowed that, seems that there are some people that i noticed that may need a much longer time in the maturity process.

Well back to Peter, I managed to explain the logic to him.

Accepting help is not a sign of weakness, instead it helps you to come to terms that you still have a long way to go and you need help. Many successful people in life had recieved assistance from the people around them and one point or other durinbg their lives and that doesn't make them any lesser of a respected person. However, it is important to know that one day we may find ourselves in the position of being able to help others just as others have done for us, and when that moment comes....... well... i am sure you know what to do. Cheers!